And the overwhelming amount of love Finn has around him will make you shed a tear 9781580054102
| Bringing in Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story By Sara Connell |
| 1580054102 |
| 9781580054102 |
| English |
| 336 |
| Hardcover |
In February 2011 61 year old Kristine Casey delivered the greatest gift of all to her daughter Sara Sara s son Finnean At that moment Kristine the gestational carrier of Sara and her husband Bill s child became the oldest woman ever to give birth in Chicago Bringing in Finn is the incredible story of one woman s hard fought and often painful journey to motherhood In this achingly honest memoir Connell recounts the tragedy and heartbreak of losing pregnancies the process of opening her heart and mind to the idea of her 61 year old mother carrying her child for her and the profound bond that blossomed between mother and daughter as a result of their unique experience together Moving inspiring and ultimately triumphant Bringing in Finn is an extraordinary tale of despair hope forgiveness and redemption and the discovery that when it comes to unconditional love there are no limits to what can be achieved Bringing in Finn An Extraordinary Surrogacy StoryThis was a very difficult book to read but nonetheless informative poignant and heart wrenching at times A true story of how a young couple struggles with infertility and how her mother spoiler comes through to be a surrogate for her I was very touched at how open and willing her mother was to take on this huge task After all it wasn t like running to the store to do a few errands it was a huge favor sacrificing her body peace of mind and time But I m sure if any of us were given the opportunity we d probably jump at it in a minute without hesitation well maybe not ALL of us I enjoyed the read and it opened my eyes to the long drawn out procedures couples have to go through the unrelenting hope and devastation or joy of the outcome It did get a little drawn out with the description of every last appointment and every last detail of what they did to finally get pregnant But then again that s the point of the story 9781580054102 What an amazing story Sara Connell s writing was impressive she used phrases that were so compelling that I found myself reading them over and over again The details that she remembered from numerous appointments over the years names of individuals and their personalities descriptions of surroundings etc were remarkable She must have journaled throughout that time to be able to document the events so clearly. so compelling that I couldn t put it down even though it was heart wrenching and I sobbed throughout much of it Both she and her mother are amazing strong women and I admire them greatly And the husbands of these women were also amazing in their own right Sara s husband Bill was supportive and also persevered throughout their long journey Sara s mother Kristine was the gestational mother at the age of 61 for Sara and Bill s baby Her husband supported his wife s desire to help Sara and Bill have a child I m not sure many men would appreciate having their 61 year old wives go through pregnancy at that age. This was an incredible book and I highly recommend it 9781580054102 Incredibly moving tale of a 61 year old mother who offers to carry the child of her daughter and son in law who ve had great difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term I sympathized very much with Sara Connell my own relationship with my mom was fairly distant and it did improve vastly after the birth of my first child Ms Connell charts the trials and emotional upheavals of finally bringing Finn her child into their lives with an honesty that is compelling and raw. And yet and yet While I felt very much for all the participants the experience of reading this book was like being forced into close quarters with an annoyingly neurotic person It s nice that Ms Connell acknowledges that she s got a lot of work to do on herself but my stoic nature had little patience with her drama As Ms Connell herself admits she s always been very emotional and sensitive The experience of reading her memoir is thus exhausting because there s so much that feels self inflicted and egocentric I was especially grossed out by the dramatastic bit when her mom was held for observation immediately after delivering Finn How could no one have told me and my husband Ms Connell whines and afterwards I forgave the doctor for not telling us what had been happening all those hours I understand that she s greatly concerned for her mother because who wouldn t be but that s not how it comes across especially since a her mother s spouse was there the entire time b the doctor s primary concern was and should be the patient not her emotionally needy daughter and c it was just for observation while the newborn baby was with Ms Connell and her husband Calm down lady not everything has to be about you. But y know that s fine her being neurotic is a personality trait and who she is and while I wouldn t want to hang out with her on a regular basis that doesn t devalue from the book at all What does detract from it however was her appalling lack of knowledge when it came to actual childbirthing issues She seems like an intelligent person so I can only attribute this to a willful ignorance of the process I get that she wanted to spare her mother pain by going as quickly as possible to a Cesarean but that s a far riskier procedure than birthing naturally with greater potential for complications and a much longer recovery time The attitude she threw at the doctors for being reluctant to perform it until they felt the rewards outweighed the risks was obnoxious And then the bit about binding breasts to stop lactation I m not sure what kind of terrible advice they got from their lactation consultant but that s a guaranteed recipe for mastitis with little benefit compared to just not nursing What s especially maddening is that none of this information is hard to find and don t get me started on the fondness for general anesthesia Ironically the holistic remedies she described were all really well researched the contrast makes her ignorance otherwise look stunningly lazy I get that her background is in homeopathy and that she was in a tizzy about the whole childbirth thing because it s such a complicated emotional process but that s seriously no excuse to not educate yourself particularly over the course of the 7 years it took. Anyway this is a great book for people who want to read about mother daughter bonding and about unusual surrogacies and about how some people manage to overcome obstacles to bring beloved children into the world I wouldn t recommend it however if you don t have a lot of patience for drama llamas I think I would have enjoyed this a lot if it had been written from the point of view of Kris Casey Ms Connell s mother who sounds like a much sensible person both in the main body of the book and in the interview attached to the end Bringing In Finn is an extraordinary story The fact that I occasionally wanted to shake sense into the narrator and don t get me wrong she does seem like a nice person who s trying her best to overcome her persecution complex didn t detract from it too much. I received this book gratis as part of ELLE Magazine s ELLE s Lettres Jurors Prize program 9781580054102 UffQu tanto es el deseo de maternar Qu tanto dinero tengo que tener para poder acceder a los procedimientos para poder maternar Por qu querer ser madre Hasta donde se pone el cuerpo en el gestor y parir Qui n Materna Qu doloroso Por qu contin a Violencia obst trica Todo esto me pregunt mientras le este libro 9781580054102 All Sara Connell wanted was to be a mom But the universe didn t seem to want it for her A poignant story of how a couple tries for six years to have a baby miscarriages stillbirth failed IVF attempts The story is a tad depressing at times especially when you have been through a miscarriage yourself. Spoiler alert it s on the back cover and anywhere else you read about the book Sara s 59 year old mother whom Sara doesn t always feel connected to offers to carry Sara and Bill s biological child. It isn t always smooth sailing and I will leave those details for you to read But in the end Sara gets her dream come true a healthy baby boy named Finn with 10 fingers and 10 toes She and her mother become bonded for life and not once does the grandmother think of Finn as her own but rather she s babysitting for nine months It also touches on meditation Eastern medicine and the mind body connection and of course Western as Sara and her mom have to take countless shots and estrogen pills which is something I have become quite interested in Sara a life coach teaches her students about vision boards and believes they worked Ironically Sara s mom Kristine s idea to carry her grandson stems from a vision board she made for the first time at one of Sara s classes. I highly recommend this book It was a quick read for me miscarriage and stilbirth yet a love story of a couple who promised and remained committed through their journey and its ups and extreme lows The big picture being their key word to remind themselves to stay focused and thankful A mother s love is unending and one mother wanted so much for her daughter to feel that love in her arms gave her daughter the ultimate gift It was hard to put this one down and it keeps me wondering how Kristine Sara Bill and sweet baby Finn are doing today Hearing this story actually read by the author is amazing and you really feel the gut punch of her loss and the anticipation of every test result I m so happy I came across this phenomenal find 9781580054102 It is simply an amazing story of pain triumph the mother daughter relationship and the ability and imperfection of the human body. I do feel like Sara went through pain jealousy and stages of grief during her mother s pregnancy than she let on From personal experience I know how hard it is to see other people especially those close to you pregnant and having children when you have lost a pregnancy or baby This book might hit a nerve if you are annoyed by people who mistrust modern medicine and constantly question the knowledge of physicians At many points Sara mistrusts the guidance of modern medicine but then is easily able to trust WebMD for all its knowledge eyeroll 9781580054102 I found the scienecy explanations of the process of IVF to be a bit boring as it was familiar I think from the time that the book was published to now there has been a lot conversation about fertility challenges and the process of IVF thanks to women like Sara sharing their stories I would have liked maybe a bit technical explanations I could feel Sara s woundedness through her writing in that in the early parts of the book I could sense the victim perspective By the end I think that she wrote about he growth out of that mindset well I m not sure that I would recommend this book to anyone I learned some new stuff but didn t find it particularly enlightening It is a unique story though 9781580054102.